How to Tell Someone Your Boundaries

Ready to Set Boundaries? Here’s How to Do It With Confidence

Deciding to set boundaries is a huge step toward protecting your peace and strengthening your relationships — and we’re cheering you on! Clear, healthy boundaries are key to building trust and mutual respect with friends, family, and coworkers. Once you’ve identified your personal limits, the next challenge is communicating them effectively. Here are some simple strategies to help you do just that:

Be Clear and Direct
Don’t leave any room for confusion. State your needs in specific terms. For example, instead of saying, “I can’t work late,” say, “I’m available between 9 a.m. and 6 p.m.” — this way, everyone understands exactly what you mean.

Explain the Consequences
It’s important to let others know what will happen if your boundaries aren’t respected. For instance, if your child tends to shout during conversations, you might say, “If you raise your voice, I’ll leave the room until you’re ready to talk calmly.” And remember — follow through to show you’re serious.

Use the Sandwich Approach
If you’re worried about hurting someone’s feelings, try wrapping your boundary between two positive statements. For example, if your sister calls every night and it’s overwhelming you, you could say, “I love our chats, but with my new job, I’m not able to talk every night. Can we plan a weekly catch-up instead?” This keeps the conversation warm and supportive while still honoring your needs.

Finding It Hard to Set Boundaries? We Can Help.

Setting and maintaining boundaries can feel uncomfortable initially, but you don’t have to figure it out alone. Our compassionate therapists specialize in helping people navigate the complexities of relationships with family, friends, coworkers, and more. We’ll work with you to develop personalized strategies that empower you to communicate your needs clearly and confidently.

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